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You Find What You Focus On (So Focus On What’s Good)

Recently, I was reminded of an important fact of life: we find a lot more of something when we’re looking for it!

Some time ago, I began periodically fasting. And on one of my fasting days, I was shocked to find I was already hungry by 9 in the morning. Now, what’s surprising about that is that I rarely eat breakfast, whether I’m fasting or not. And I often eat lunch simply because it’s lunchtime rather than because I’m hungry. So for me to be hungry so early in the morning…well, it’s unheard of!

Clearly, the only reason I was hungry was because I had already chosen not to eat. And for the simple fact that on that day I had chosen to pay closer attention to what I ate and when I ate it (or more accurately, what and when I did not eat), I then became hyper-focused on eating…and on hunger.

In other words, I found a lot more of what I was paying attention to. 

I’m sure we’ve all experienced this same effect. For instance, you learn a new word, and suddenly you encounter it everywhere. Or you see a yellow car and actually think to yourself “that’s interesting, yellow cars are pretty rare”, only to find over the next week or so that you now seem to see a yellow car at every intersection!

What’s fascinating here is that in these examples, that new word and those yellow cars didn’t suddenly appear everywhere, they were there all along. The only thing that changed was our attention to them. It’s quite likely that I’m hungry around mid-morning every day, but I usually don’t notice because I’m busy paying attention to other things.

One thing’s certain: you find what you focus on. This can be positive, or extremely negative. Have you ever encountered somebody that can find the stormcloud behind every silver lining? Don’t be that person. If you’re looking for what’s bad in every situation, you will surely find it! And what value is there in that?

So if you’re going to find what you’re looking for anyway, strive to be the person that finds what’s good in everything. And if I can make a suggestion, I recommend that you look for the ultimate good in everything: God. Yes, turn your focus toward God’s presence in your life. With that focus, you will indeed find countless examples of His benevolence, and be amazed!

Are you ready to be amazed by God?

Collective Wisdom Ain’t

Collective wisdom is no kind of wisdom. A look at the major breakthroughs in thought throughout history shows that defying collective wisdom often leads to the purest creative solutions to the questions that are pondered. The history of science and technology particularly is a progression of one case study after another that shows how new advancements rely on stepping outside of what is at the time considered by many people to be an obvious fact.

Consider the case of Ptolemy. He developed a beautifully detailed and well reasoned model of the universe in which the Earth stood at the center. To account for the motion of the heavenly bodies, Ptolemy reasoned that they sat upon fixed spheres which rotated around the Earth. Since he realized that stars, planets and comets all seemed to have different trajectories, he reasoned that there were in fact several of these spheres.

The most important thing about Ptolemy’s model is that it worked. He had the evidence in front of him and constructed a model based on that evidence. Because Ptolemy’s model explained things so well, it became widely accepted. This model, along with the remarkably detailed records that he kept regarding the motion of the stars and planets, proved to be useful for navigation and astronomy for centuries to follow.

Although people periodically hypothesized that the Earth might actually be orbiting the Sun, Ptolemy’s model remained the commonly accepted view of the cosmos for fourteen centuries! It was not until Copernicus arrived on the scene that a heliocentric theory gained traction. Prior to that time, people were largely complacent to accept the collective wisdom of others.

Let’s face it: we all have a tendency to be lazy thinkers. That in and of itself is not a bad thing. Lazy thinking helps us get through the day. At some point, you can button your shirt in the morning without any deliberate thought. And imagine what the world would be like if everybody had to discover everything by themselves, without relying on the knowledge and wisdom of others. Fortunately, we don’t have to understand how computers work, we just have to know how to use them. We don’t have to know the entire written works of physics and astronomy to enjoy watching the sun set. We can use the wisdom of our predecessors to leapfrog to our own discoveries.

But when we become too complacent about our thinking, we run the risk of preventing further progress and prevent increasing the quality of our knowledge. When we accept assumptions as fact solely because everybody agrees with the idea, we have something that is cause for suspicion.

This is not to suggest that all collective wisdom is wrong. Sometimes things are widely accepted as true because they actually are. People would generally agree that leaping off of a cliff is detrimental to your health. Most people agree that you should not eat rat poison. It would certainly not be wise to defy conventional thinking and leap off of a cliff or to feast on a box of rat poison “just to double check”.

The key is to ensure that you are always thinking. Challenge your assumptions. When you accept something as true, accept it because you have thought about it and found it to be true — not merely because somebody told you that “everybody knows” it is true.

Fools Have Answers, Intellectuals Have The Questions

Young children are the masters of questions. And for good reason – they have had very little experience in the world, and are doing the best they can to catch up. They realize that they don’t know it all, and they ask questions in order to learn more about the world around them.

And now, here’s a question for you to consider: at what point did you stop questioning like a child?

Sadly, many of us no longer have the capacity to ask questions like children. The causes are many. Some of us may feel self conscious about asking questions because we don’t want people to know that we don’t know something. Some of us may have grown weary of questioning because we have found that answers only lead to more questions. Others of us have given up on questioning for its apparent futility – not everything can be known. And others among us, albeit subconsciously, actually feel that we know all there is to know.

When looking back on the great creative geniuses of history, however, we find that they all share a common love of questioning. The status-quo is never good enough and their curiosity, like that of a child, was unquenchable.

By contrast, many famously bad predictions were delivered very matter-of-factly. They were spoken with the force of one who had ultimate knowledge, but in the course of time would be proved extraordinarily false.

Allow me to propose a notion that could rekindle your child-like need to question.

Consider the possibility that questions are not merely a search for answers. Questions do not exist only to increase our understanding, but to open a much larger door to the future. Questions, when used effectively, activate the ability for possibility thinking. This function of questioning has led to every great technological and sociological advancement in the world’s history.

Possibility thinking begins with replacing the classic fact-finding children’s question of why with the more powerful question, what if:

  • What if nations were ruled by their citizens?
  • What if people could fly?
  • What if people all over the world could communicate with each other easily?
  • What if we could mimic the sun’s power to provide electricity?
  • What if we could build an elevator into space?

“What if” lies at the heart of all progress. If you look around you, you will find that the people with the most influence and the most success are the ones that ask the best questions.

Fun With Truisms

Use Contrasts To Discover Wisdom

This world is woven together by surprising contrasts and parallells. One interesting side effect is that it becomes very easy to create remarkably deep insights simply by twisting phrases around contrasting or parallell themes. For example: To be a friend to all…you must be all to a friend.

Simple. Rearranging the first clause creates a truism — a sentiment that is easily dismissed because it is so pithy. But when you peer into it more deeply, profound truth bursts forth. This simple statement addresses many searching questions: How do you make friends? How do you keep friends? What is a good friend? The answer is simple, but its meaning is great.

Use Wordplay To Discover The Secrets Of The Universe

If you enjoy wordplay, consider creating trusisms. You might even discover the soul of the universe along the way! Here are some more…

  1. To be “successful”, you must “be” successful.
  2. When you are talking, you aren’t listening.
  3. To understand your neighbor, seek to understand yourself.
  4. To get what you want, give what others need.
  5. Kindness is a selfless act. Cruelty is a selfish act.
  6. To discover wisdom, uncover your folly.
  7. To spend more tomorrow, spend less today.
  8. If you dream of success, succeed at your dreams.
  9. Thought creates nothing. Action creates everything.
  10. Giving hearts give more than giving hands.
  11. Evil thoughts and evil acts have the same victim.
  12. Hate begins with a thought. Love begins with an action.
  13. Light is the presence of light, but darkness is not the presence of darkness.
  14. To shower your family with presents, shower them with your presence.
  15. If you want only what you need, you need never be in want.
  16. Hate finds faults. Love accepts faults.
  17. Action builds hope. Sloth builds anguish.
  18. Busy bodies don’t have time to be busybodies.
  19. Physical limits constrain the body. The mind constrains itself.
  20. Today won’t be the same as yesterday. Tomorrow won’t be the same as today.
  21. Praising me makes me happy. Praising you makes us happy.
  22. Sometimes people that seem to have money only seem to have money.
  23. Lies require a host of proof. Truth requires none.
  24. Better questions lead to better answers.
  25. Rules lead the masses. Ideals lead the leaders.

Define Yourself, Liberate Yourself

Few people realize just how much power is contained in the two simple words, “Know Thyself”.

Life is complicated. There are many things to do, many people to meet, many things to fear and many things to be happy about. It can be overwhelming. And all people eventually reach a point where they ask the Big Question: “WHO AM I?”

The Most Important Question

So, take a moment to answer the question: Who are you?

How did you answer? You may have been tempted to define yourself by your career (salesman, electrician, manager, etc.). You might have defined yourself by your physical characteristics (tall, brown eyes, long hair, etc.). Perhaps you defined yourself by your personality (lover, giver, thinker, etc.). But in the end, it is a trick question.

The Ultimate Liberation

You see, any attempt you make to define who you are inherently limits you. In the end, the only proper response that fully captures who you are is “I am.” This is the only answer that strips away all of the self-imposed limitations that all other responses create.

This realization is peculiarly liberating. By recognizing that we are not defined by our personality, our actions or our ideas, we finally have permission to simply be. Our self-worth is no longer tied to our actions or our appearance — we derive our value simply by living. Things that are rare are the most valuable of all. And you are the only person like you that will ever live! That rarity certainly has value.